When will I be loved? Overwhelmed by Divorce?

Divorce is overwhelming.   Emotions will be out of control, it will feel like you will never be okay again. 

You may think to yourself “will I ever find someone that I can love?” Other thoughts may be that you are worthless and unwanted. ” What in the world am I going to do or who do I need to turn to?” you may ask.  There will be hours on the phone with your girlfriend or someone else in your family or a close friend.  It is just a crazy time and irrational thoughts will abound, and panic will set in.  You may think that you just want to run away or I don’t want to live.  All of these thoughts and reactions are NORMAL and to be expected.  If you don’t experience most of these you are a very strong person but having these thoughts don’t mean you aren’t strong it just means you are normal.

Your family will tell you go get the toughest divorce lawyer you can or just take them to the cleaners, get what is coming to you so in the end you feel like you got the justice you deserve.  What is justice?  Who decides what is fair?  Do you want to be in control of that decision?  

Possibly the best step for you now is to find someone who is unbiased and not interested in the end result just because they gained monetarily.  As a divorce coach, my primary interest is helping you make decisions for you personally and your family’s financial future.  I want you to make a decision based on facts.  To be empowered because you know your financial situation and have a clear path and plan to avoid “throwing in the towel”.

If you feel you could benefit from having a “thinking partner” by your side throughout and beyond the divorce process contact me for a free discovery session.

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Is Healing your goal? How do you get there?

Bible Study Proverbs 31 Ministry “Univited”

From the book Univited by Lysa Terkeurst

They say time heals-and I think this can be true-but only if that’s truly the goal here: healing. Time grows the seeds that are planted, watered, and fertilized. Plant beauty, grow beauty. Plant thorns, grow thorns. Time will allow for either…Bitterness, resentment, and anger have no place in a heart as beautiful as yours.
(TerKeurst, page 68)

You have been betrayed, hurt, abandoned….yes, no question some or all of these things are true BUT, what if you can write a different sentence in your story of divorce?

We can when we:

  • Speak with honor in the midst of being dishonored
  • Speak with peace in the midst of being threatened
  • Speak of good things in the midst of a bad situation
  • Be obedient to, trust and believe God and let Him take control of our contrary feelings

 

People who care more about being right than ending right prove just how wrong they were all along. (TerKeurst, page 68)

I have read this book and it spoke to me with every page and chapter, now I am leading a weekly bible study using the DVD and study guide with this book….during the study I am discovering that every time I felt rejected before and during my divorce I could have rewritten the timeline if I had applied these things to my emotions.

This is one of the reasons I have been lead to develop a pathway for others in all seasons of divorce to come along side and be your “thinking partner” helping to answer questions you didn’t know to ask.

A Divorce Coach is  your “thinking” partner –helping you navigate the unknowns of divorce while creating a road map to resolution.

http://emergevictorious.com/podcasts/

Great resource click here to listen to Divorce Coach Sandra Lee